Living by clinging to the past and not paying much attention to the present or the future is like driving a car while only looking at the rearview mirror. It's not hard to predict what will happen to a driver who doesn't look ahead. As a teacher, an administrator, or a student, we all have stories of mistakes and failures we've made in the past. Getting stuck on these and becoming passive, with our hands tied, is an attitude that can poison our life. Instead, learning from past mistakes and failures and avoiding the same errors in the future is one of the ways an effective individual develops themselves. Remember that our mistakes are learning opportunities; "falling down is not a failure, but staying down is."
I would like to share a story related to this topic here. One day, two monks were walking along the road when they saw a young woman waiting to cross a puddle of water. One of the monks, much to the other's dismay, picked her up and carried her to the other side. After walking for about a mile, the astonished monk finally commented, "We are monks; we’re not even allowed to look at women, let alone carry them across. How could you do such a thing?"
The other monk replied, "I left that young woman behind a mile ago. Why are you still carrying her?"”
The lesson to be taken from this story is: "If we do not allow our problems, sorrows, and disappointments to remain in the past, they become a burden on our shoulders. Their weight prevents us from laughing. If we want a joyful life, we must deal with the circumstances we are in and learn to accept what we have experienced in the past. We should focus on the things we want to change and put effort into them. However, if we focus too much on these issues and expend all our energy on them, we will become blind to everything happening around us."